Potty training Your Baby: You make ask yourselves when is the right time to potty train my child? How do I teach this basic and yet difficult action? What if he or she has accidents in the process? How do I even start to potty train?
Every mother has jumbled upon these questions. The potty-training process is not easy and requires consistency and patience.
Some start the process too early and the child is just not ready yet. Others are not consistent and loose hope before they accomplish the task of potty training the child.
There are many techniques to potty train your child. A mother should quickly to another method without letting a lot of frustration getting in the way.
All in all, mothers need to be aware of everything related to potty training before starting the process.
- What is potty training
- 3 stages of Potty Training
- 10 Signals for Readiness
- 4 Types of Potty-training methods
- 11 Tips for Potty training
What is potty training?
Potty training is the process of training your child to independently go to the washroom. Furthermore, the child should be aware of the hygiene related to going potty.
He or she should be able to flush and wash the hands with soap properly. Boys should be trained to pee in the proper way and not the fun way.
3 stages of potty training
Stage 1: At first, you should aim to make you child pee every time during the day with diaper on during the night.
In Stage 2: Next, you should aim to get your child pee during the night and go without diaper at night.
Stage 3: The last step should be to make him pass stool.
A mother should keep in mind that during this process, there will be accidents.
Moreover, there will be numerous times when the child will want to go to the washroom when least expected.
For example, you are out shopping with the family and your child will want to go to the washroom at the spot immediately.
It takes quick thinking and lots of patience to get through this stage successfully.
Parents should keep in mind that there is light at the end of the tunnel. And go about the training if it is not becoming too stressful or frustrating for the parent or the kid.
10 Signals for readiness:
The process of potty training should be started at the right age when the child is ready.
It takes stability and lots of patience for a mother to achieve this task.
When the child has learned to be independent, it marks the beginning of being a big boy.
It is important to keep in mind that every child is unique and reaches milestones at different times.
Mainly, Potty training a child requires the child to be ready. There is no age to potty train your child.
Some things to look out for are:
- Your child shows some interest in underpants, washroom, and potty seat.
- Your child notices when adults use restroom.
- The schedule for pooping is fixed
- Let you know to be changed if the diaper is dirty.
- Your child can follow basic directions.
- He or she can independently wear the pants.
- You child can sit and get up from the potty seat.
- Shows body language like going in a corner to poop.
- Can understand the word “pee” or “poo”.
- Your child can stay dry for 2 hours or so.
4 Types of Potty-training Methods
The Independent Method
Around the age of 2, watch out for signals of readiness. Put a potty seat in the bathroom but do not pressurize. When he or she uses the potty-seat, be supportive by encouraging and praising.
This approach works best if there are older siblings in the house according to the neuropsychologist Dr. Peter Stavinoha. If it is your first child, it is better to go try out other methods.
The Planner Method
Set a time to promote potty use. For example, a month before preschool starts. In a friendly and supportive manner, make your child go to the washroom at predictable intervals like every 2 hours or so.
This act should be continuous for the time you have set your mindset to. This method is also referred to as “boot camp” where a day or a week is focused entirely around potty use.
Training Pants Method
Change from diapers to disposable training pants. Take him to the bathroom at intervals and ask him or her if he needs to go.
Praise when he or she does pee in the potty seat for encouragement for next use.
You can also get “wet sensation” diapers and note by letting him tell you when he does, so the timings can be easily noted.
A reward for every potty-seat use Method
For every use of the potty seat, you can reward him or her a gift. It could be anything simple or just a sticker. This will encourage the child greatly to collect the rewards.
11 simple and effective tips for Potty Training
Every child is unique
Do keep in mind that every child is unique. If a relative’s kid was potty trained in 3 days and you are struggling since a month, keep in mind that this is no competition.
A child will achieve the milestone at their own time.
You cannot rush him or her. Also, reaching the milestone a little late compared to other children does not mean that your child is not smart.
Patience is the key
Some children will test you by not using the potty seat and accidents will take place. Keep your anger level in-tact.
You do not want to yell at the child and cause constipation. Anger will only lead the child to hold it in the next time.
I tried my best to keep the potty (the moveable one) inside the bathroom so it is better and easier to clean. However, it is a messy period which will soon tide by.
Interact with your child
Have a friendly conversation with your child and see why he or she is not willing to use the potty seat.
Sometimes, there could be something bothering the child to use the potty seat.
Be approachable to your child to share his or her feelings.
My niece had lot of issues with potty training. She would refuse going to and using the toilet.
After a week one day with a little pep talk, we figured out that she was fearing that she will fall inside the toilet and get flushed.
We then started with happing a kid potty outside the bathroom and slowly once she got comfortable, we moved it inside and later made her use the toilet with a baby seat.
Communication with your child can resolve many problems.
Do pep talk
It is a good idea to give a prep talk to you child. You will go a long way with your kids with pep talk.
How he or she could be a big boy and start school? How he or she could be mummy’s big boy and do big things?
My daughter would go about telling everyone how she is a big girl. And she can use the potty all by herself. How she is “Winner”.
She would also show off her bed to all of us that she has not bed wetted.
Convey the message that it is “Natural”
Let you child know that it is a natural thing to go to the washroom. Everyone goes to the washroom, even pets. The more comfortable he or she gets the better results.
In fact, I would tell my kids when they were in the age to be potty trained before I went to the washroom, so the kid is aware of the habit and wants to follow.
Use a timer
Mothers are can get caught up with other things and lose track of the interval timings set to practice using the potty seat. It is a good idea to use a timer.
A timer will let you stop what you are working and make you rush to the washroom with you child.
Also, your kid will also relate to the timer and when it goes off, he will run himself to the relive. And will feel proud when he does it right. My elder son loved to delight me with this.
Even before I come looking for him, he will run past to the bathroom finish his work and wait for me to come and flush. It was a game to him. (I also will delay going once I hear the beep go off. So, he gets his 2 minutes of fame).
Its ok to express disappointment
Yes, showing anger will do more harm than good, but it is ok to express a disappointment if there is an accident.
Your child considers you a role model and looks up to your disapprovals and approvals. So, it is ok to let your child know that he or she has done a bad thing if he missed a step.
But do this is moderation so that your kid does not feel let down. Always end the conversation in a positive note.
E.g. Ohh Mam!!! Why did you do this?… Look at all the work?… Next time do not do it… OK?
By ending in a positive note, you will let your child know that it is not the end of the world and maybe next time he or she could make mummy proud by using the potty seat.
Rewards for success
Rewards can persuade anyone to do an excellent job. It is an excellent idea to make this fun for your child and reward him or her for such a big accomplishment.
I did have the reward calendar and when my kid used the potty successfully for bowel movements, he got to have an achievement day celebration. Where he could choose a treat or an activity that we all participate with him.
Make it fun
Kids love things with energy and enthusiasm from the parents. Mothers should be creative in this task of potty training.
It will encourage a child to go potty in a kid sized toilet. A cartoon on the toilet would attract the child even more.
Moreover, a mother can tell stories about the “toilet” or sing a song to get things interesting and fun.
If you like to know how to tell stories or sing songs to your toddler.
It will persuade the child to accomplish the task with full enthusiasm.
Let your baby have their own privacy. Leave them alone in there for some time.
When you do this ensure that there are no buckets or vessels filled with water in the bathroom.
Also ensure that the bathroom is well ventilated so that your toddler does not get anxious. And the bathroom floor is not slippery.
Giving an alone time does not really mean That you are leaving the child alone for long duration.
I usually leave my kid to go about with their business. With the bathroom door half closed so there is enough privacy for the kid.
At the same time, I would be waiting outside for cues from the kid that they want me to attend to them.
Stop & Restart
If you find all the cues right. And you feel the signal is correct to start potty training for your child.
Do start potty training. However, if you find that your child is resisting it, or not ready, or getting stressed out.
It is totally okay to stop it. Give it few more weeks and restart it again. Do not stress or fret if it is not done in your first few attempts.
You might also want to read about anxieties in babies & toddlers and how to spot them and deal with them in our article How-To deal with anxiety in Babies & Toddlers
Kids will learn to use the potty eventually. So, take it light and slow.
Teaching age appropriate life skill is one of the responsibilities of us as parents. If you are wondering what the required age appropriate life skill are so read our very informative article on TEACH YOUR CHILD LIFE SKILLS: A How-To Guide.
Potty training is a life skill and it is a step that your little needs to take to become independent. It needs to be started at the right age. Preferably not less than 2 yrs. of age.
Potty training a child requires hard work and persistence. It should be done in a friendly manner to encourage the child to accomplish this difficult task.
Although this task is not easy for both the mother and the child, it can be made fun with simple energetic techniques.
Always remember, it is ok for your child to accomplish this task a little late than other kids surrounding you.
Know the stages of potty training and take it slow. Do not worry.
Have you seen a grown-up kid who is not potty trained?
It will happen. In Its time. A little bit of encouragement and effort is all that is needed from our side and you will successfully over come it.
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