How-To play with your kids when you don’t know how

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Play with your kids when you don’t know how: If you Google such expressions as “playing with kids,” you will discover many specialists telling you how beneficial parent-kid play is for both sides.

They describe it as a way for you to a healthy relationship with your kid. It as an approach to have a great time and get solid exercise with your kid.

Playing games with your kids can help them to learn many things. In some cases, we see that many parents do not prefer to play with their children. Or you like to play with your kids but you don’t know how.

They feel guilty to play with little kids. They hate playing. This is the pinching reality.



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Parents and society separate the idea of play from that of work. But In case when we are talking about kids, play is the work.

For them playing is normally a method for finding out about the world where they live.

Sometimes parents think that playing is done just when time permits. They think that they should not spare time for their kids. Because work is more important than play.

In this way, they lose the opportunities to enjoy the company of their kids. They miss the golden chance to know about the personalities of their kids.

As guardians, you are your kid’s most favorite mate. But many guardians think that what to play with their kids? They do not know how to play. Let’s clear the main question first.

What is a play and types of play?

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Play is an activity that everyone enjoys doing. Play is important for healthy development. Kids practice many skills and find ideas through play.

Play for a child is serous work. It sometimes is disheartening that some parents think play is unnecessary and it is a waste of time and worse still push their little ones only to academic skills such as reading, writing, counting etc. with the belief that only such teaching leads to success in life. In the process they fail to understand their children’s needs and to unfold them to be who they really are!

As mentioned above Play for a child is serous work. It’s a natural instinctive urge like rolling over, crawling, walking, running that our little one did on his/ her own from the time they were born till now.

So, let’s not forget that it only through Play that they hone the much-needed life skills such as:

  • Gross-Motor skills
  • Fine-Motor skills
  • Socio-Emotional skills
  • Cognitive skills
  • Language skills

Instinctively Caterpillars eat whatever they see to become a Butterfly one day. It’s the same with Children they are instinctively drawn to play and explore whatever they see to become a well-equipped human-being one day!

One might wonder how does play help in developing these array of skills…

We have classified below the different types of play and the skills they develop in our children when they engage in each type of play….

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Why do children Play

Researches show that 90% of the Brain Development happens by the time the kid is 6 years old. This includes the creation of an astounding 1 million connections per second between the Brain cells. This amazing development can happen when the kid explores the world through ‘Play’.

The work of a child is to play. Playing is the method by which children explore, admire, question, understand and learn the world they are born into, in his/her own way.

Children by themselves are drawn to play. It is by this instinct and urge to play they learn all their life skills through the trials and errors while they play.

Let’s not forget…Children’s brain is like a gift. It just needs to be unwrapped for surprises and miracles to come.

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Importance of playing with your kids

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Play is an amazing opportunity to have fun. But it is not a kidding business in case of a kid’s health and mental development. From playing hide and seek to have a race competition it plays a vital role.

Games help to sharpen the brain of your kids. They also improve the physical growth of your child.

When my nephew was 3 years old, he was very lazy. He did not learn the things that I wanted to teach him. His mind was not much sharp. But then soon I started to play with him. I remember the first game that I play with my little nephew. It was hide and seek.

Now he becomes the best seeker. He plays with full energy. I feel happy when I see his shining eyes when he finds me.

He shows great interest in playing. It seems that games are his most important business. He Uses his full strength to win.

I will be glad to share that still I play Ludo with my father. And this thing maintains our relationship.

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Personalities of kids who do not play games

  • They are not active
  • Kid tend to be less sharp-minded
  • They do not show interest
  • They do not understand things easily
  • Physically they are not strong
  • They do not participate in any game competition
  • They do not have a sense of competition

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Types of games

  1. Indoor games
  2. Outdoor games

Indoor games

These are the games that we play inside the home. When there is a matter of children who are under 5 years, we prefer these types of games. We can easily play indoor games with our children at home.

Outdoor games

Those games that we play outside are called outdoor games. These games will be suitable for up to 9 years of kids. Because after playing indoor games our kids come to what is meant by playing games. Know more from the article How-to get your kid to play outdoors

Ways to play with your kids

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Many parents want to play with their kids. But they do not know how to play or what to play. There are many different ways to play with your kids. These are very simple and easy. Try these with your kids. You will see positive changes in your kids.

Play with balloons

Many kids love balloons. Take a balloon and teach your kids how to blow it. Then punch the balloon. Your kids will copy you and will do the same. They will enjoy it.

Play hide and seek

Hide and seek is an easy game. Firstly, give instructions to your kids. Then hide in an easy place. Ask your kids to find you. You will see that when he will find you, he will jump with happiness.

Make paper plane

Mostly boys love construction. Take the paper. Teach your kids how to make an airplane. When they have learned to race. At then at end appreciate your kid if he did the best.

Race with your kid

Ask your kid to have a race competition with you. Tell him that if he will win the race, he will be a hero. While running, do not cross him. Let him win. In the end, praise him and give him chocolate.

Do water fighting

You can play this game in the summer season. Take some plastic cups, bowl, can, or plastic pistol. Choose the safe prop. Wear any water play outfit and start through water on each other.

Play hangman

Get out a piece of paper or utilize a dry board that can be erased. Play hangman with your children.

This basic game empowers spelling and assists, kids, with learning the capacity of interpreting words. It’s instructive and enjoyable at the same time.

Play with ball

Regardless of whether it’s soccer, baseball, b-ball, kickball, dodgeball, or calm ball — simply play! It is a very simple game. Take a ball. Through it slowly towards your kid. Ask him to catch the ball. Then he will through back It will be an interesting and cheap game.

Story competition

Have a story competition with your kids. Tell him a story. Then ask him to tell you a different story. Do this turn by turn. But remember that your stories must be based on some morals or lessons. In this way, you can teach many things to your kids.

Act on a poem

Sing a poem with action with your kids. For example, I perform the poem ‘’Twinkle Twinkle Little Stars’’. My nephew follows me and does the same. He learns how to move his body with the words. He enjoys this game.

Go for a walk or on bike ride

As you know kids love to go out. Spare some time for your kids. Go on a long bike ride or a walk. Do this daily. While walking does conversion with him. Ask them about their interests.

Fly kite

In the evening go to the roof with your kids and fly a kite. Although they do not know how to fly. They will assist you and enjoy it. But be careful. They must not hold the rope.

Do cooking

Although children cannot cook. But most girls love cooking in their childhood. They want to cook as their mothers do. When you are going to cook any simple dish take them with you to the kitchen. They will assist you in cooking. Ask them to bring glass, basket, and many different tasks like these. They will enjoy it.

Play cricket

Buy a plastic bat and a small ball. Play cricket with your child at home. Through the ball slowly. Teach him how to do bating and balling. Your child shows energy while playing

Other activities that you can engage with your kids

There are many activities that you can do which can also be considered as play to stop or you can make the activities become play.

 some of the activities are listed below to get your creativity cracking so you can build up on this.

  1. Go to playgrounds or a park or a beach and build sand castles together, or blow bubbles and see whose bubble is going the highest.
  2. Do decoration, arranging, cleaning, rearranging and painting your house together.
  3. All chores can be made into fun activities and can be done or played together some can be competitive in nature and some can be complementary in nature.
  4. You can play a ‘spot’ game while you are going around doing your outdoor work. Here all you have to do is tell an object that you spot while you are shopping and your kid needs to bring it to you. (You can finish your grocery list soon that way)
  5. While driving you can still have simple games such as who spots an even number on a vehicle number plate.
  6. While going for a walk with your kid. You can rhyme games. Where you tell a word and your kid replies with a word that rhymes. You both can take turns with it. They make conversations interesting. Ask random questions to make conversation interesting. 
  7. You can also build stories with your kid. While you start with a line and the next line needs to be built up by your kid.
  8. Cook together. Make your child a commentator who will tell all the steps or process that you are doing. You can get your child to do a small help and you can also play the commentator while they are doing it.

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Things to remember while playing with kids

Be patient

When you are playing with your child, keep in mind that he is a child. He does not know how to play. Show patience when he is doing wrong. Do not be harsh. If you shout, he will be afraid of you. He will not like to play with you.

Appreciate your kid

If your kid is playing well appreciate him. He will be more energetic. By appreciating you can develop more interest in your kids.

  • Clap for your kids
  • Give them gift
  • Encourage them

Be energetic

Remember, if you are not showing any interest in playing it is not effective. Your children will do the same. He will not show any interest. You have to be more active than your children.

Be a kid with your kid

When you are playing with a kid you have to be a kid with him. Play simply. Do not choose difficult games. If your kid does not like any game then leave that game.

Do not criticize

Remember, if you criticize your kids’ gain and again your kids will become negative. He will become arrogant. Do not criticize them every time. If they are doing oppositely kindly tell them. You give them to love more they will be confident.

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6 effective things to do when you don’t like or know how to play with your kids 

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I personally feel very bored when I play with my children. And not really motivated enough when they come and call me to play. 

If you are a parent like me and you don’t like or know how to play with your kidsthenbelow a few things that have helped me to indulge in play with my children.

1.   Commit to a time

When I say commit to a time it does not mean you have to commit to hours together. It can just be 10 minutes for 20 minutes of whatever duration seems best for you. But commit to a time in the manner that you commit to a meeting at work. I calendarize the date and time (15 mins after dinner on Saturday) and I make sure that I am available for 15 minutes and just play with the children.

2.   Just jump in

In my opinion I love this point much more. The reason is when my children ask if I can play with them it just takes a second to decide yes or no. 

There is always work and if for some reason your work is slightly lesser at that minute or you can spare 5 to 10 minutes. Just say YES and get up from your seat. 

It works like a charm just say yes get up play with your kids for 5 minutes come back to your desk and start working. 

It will not derail you from your work more than what a trip to the washroom or a trip to the coffee vending machine would do. Consider it like that.

3.  Don’t have an agenda

Earlier when I had these scheduled times. I would try to rack my brains to come up with an agenda of what to play or how to play. 

It took me a while to realise that the fundamental thing of fun is that it is not really planned out to the last T. 

Just be available and present with no distractions and have no agenda and let the wind take you where it has to. Go with the flow.

4.   Have a routine game

I have seen my husband use this practice very well. He and my daughter have this routine set of games so that there is no need for extra creativity with your racking your brains to come up with something to engage. 

It has the simple game of Rock-paper-scissors. He plays one or two sets of 5 rounds each with my daughter every day.  He does this in the morning which is a good and fun way to start the day. This also helps my daughter get out of bed soon. And that is all the game that he plays and has played for years now with her.

5.   Just chill and follow your kids lead

We put additional pressure on ourselves trying to engage our children. When they call us to play with them, we automatically assume that they are wanting us to entertain them and we need to take the lead. It need not be so. Just be present, sit with them. Ask them what needs to be done. And follow whatever that they are doing. Whatever they are asking you to do. 

You can shut your brains up and blindly follow them and participate in the game. it is more your presence that they seek rather than your skills at the game.

6.   Get them interested in your favourite game

Call it a trick or manipulation. But this makes these times of playing with your children are interesting for you also. When you don’t like or know how to play with your kids, use your favourite board game, or card game and teach and make your children a worthy opponent for you. 

In that way you also enjoy the game and you spend time playing the game that you enjoy with your child. It is definitely a much more fun way to pass time and spend play time with your children. Your children also get better at the game over time.


After reading the above content I am sure that you have understood the importance of games. Spare time for your kids to maintain a strong relationship with them. Your kids will enjoy playing with you. These tips will help you to make your kids active, energetic, and sharp-minded.

So, if you are like me and you don’t like or know how to play with your kids then use the tips that is outlined above. The bottom line is that you send time with your kids and play.

God Bless!!

Thabitha David

Thabitha David

Mother, Wife, Daughter, Sister, Aunt, Friend. She is a MBA Graduate specialized in Human Resources. She is a very proud mother of 3 Kids. (2 Teens & 1 Tween). She is a keen Observer of Life and is a blogger. She writes these articles based on her experience (Success and Failures). She does this with hope to help and ease the pain of at-least one parent as they face the challenges of parenting. Read more from the About Us Page

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  1. Willie Paynes says:

    good article

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